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Discussion:
Can Women and Men just be friends?
Posts 41 to 44 from a total of 50
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Re: about being drunk
[07-Aug-2000]
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posted by: winston
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I think guys and girls can be friends, in fact many of my close friends are guys. i would have to agree with many of the earlier posts though that there is actually a great deal of sexual tension/attracton/flirtation that exists in the majority of the relationships though i have found that in instances where we have acted on it that the relationship usually suffers and eventually fades, unless we started off dating and then decided to be friends. I think if two people consent to a physical relationship then it is perfectly fine even if it makes you "kissing friends", as to whether your friendship will survive depends on the base of the friendship. As to the original post, i think that sometimes people begin friendships under false pretensese, hpoing that it will lead somewhere, that if the person just sees how great you are as a friend they will fall for you, but those types usually reveal themeselves after awhile which it appears that he did. It sounds like you are better off without his friendship and most certainly without a romantic relationship/physical relatinship with him.
I am curious as to one of the earlier posts that questioned going away with friends of the opposite sex and the reaction of your current significant other...the guys i have dated have never been to fond of my male friends, with a few exceptions, but when i approach the idea of an overnight trip with a male friend it always seems to make them at least suspect, unless they are buds with the guy as well and that goes for even the guys that seemed fine with the friendships. That being said i have also found that rarely do my guy pals girlfriends like my friendship with their boyfriend and it sometimes has caused break-ups.
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the answer to the mystery
[07-Aug-2000]
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posted by: hemmy
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Carmen: thank you, that was exactly what i meant.
Maskiny: this is the reason. both my friend and i were seeing other people at the time. i don{t wanna go into details, but the sexual attraction was there and the sex was very good, probably cos we were doing something we{d been subconsciously wanting for a very long time and also as it was something forbidden. we would never have done it without the alcohol, but then again, maybe it was just an excuse...
i know i would never go out with him as i wouldn{t be able to stand having him as a boyfriend, but it was simply and purely, sex.
anyhow, it didn{t damage our friendship in any way and we still joke about it. as i said before, it depends on what your friendship is like.
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you can be friends
[08-Aug-2000]
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posted by: josemetra
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you can be friends, but you need to buy this first:
http://www.infernosoft.com/timberwoof/mate/viriguard/index.html
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Re: Can Women and Men just be friends?
[10-Aug-2000]
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posted by: kimeng
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Cheer up! He obviousley wasn't a real mate in the first place.
From my point of view men and women can definately be 'just friends'. Two of my oldest and dearest friends are blokes, admittedly on eof them is gay but I've been friends with them for nearly nine years now and we're all still as close as ever.
There was an incident a couple of years ago at a drunken new years do where the three of us asked each other if we would contemplate having sex with the others (singly, no kinky stuff!) and we decided that it may have crossed our minds at some point but then we thought it wouldn't be a good idea. We were very honest (alcohol seems to do that!) and admitted whether or not we found the other attractive but that it's incidental as we prefer being friends.
I think it really depends on the type of lad you're talking about. I found that most of the ones who want to be your friend in the hope of getting something more are usually out to show off to their mates. Hope I'm not offending anyone by saying that.
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